Calico : The Dominatrix Next Door

I really enjoyed reading her blog, so much so that I gave it my pick on janesguide and have linked to it on my own blog.  Calico is a dominatrix and fetish model from NYC and she uses her blog to talk about her experiences as a sex worker and her own personal fetish interests.  I like that she talks about what it is like to be a sex worker and how perceptions of sex workers don’t match the reality. She also talks about her own interests and how the can be quite divergent from her work as a dominatrix.

She writes extremely well, and I found her to be really engaging and interesting.  She speaks on topics I’ve dealt with, and spoken about,  myself as  someone in the sex industry.  In my case, I’ve modeled, been a photographer, done pro dom sessions, and run a private kink club, and dealt with the misperceptions of those who don’t understand what we do.

Her site is a great read.  I encourage you to check it out.

We are located a short distance from Vancouver, B.C. We can host
photo shoots in our studio, or we can travel up to 3 hours distance to
you. (ie) Vancouver Island, Seattle, WA, Kamloops, B.C. etc.

The comfort of our models is really important to us, and models will
never be asked to do something that makes them uncomfortable. Many
models prefer to meet us for coffee before deciding to do a photo
shoot with us, and we encourage this if you have any questions before
hand. Our goal is to capture unique and artistic erotic imagery.
Nudity is optional, and depends on your comfort level.

Please contact us if you are interested.

Wolfe and Katt
www.baldbeauties.com/models.php

Now the update…

We took a time off of running parties in our dungeon this month.   Katt’s health has been poor for the last 6 weeks or so and we decided that some time to ourselves was in order while she was going through the initial stages of diagnosis.  We are waiting for speicalists appointments still.  It takes a while.  The two different ideas that are being bandied about are an autoimmune issue which may resolve itself over time, or alternatively fibromyalgia, which is a chronic condition.  Until she sees a specialist we can;t say for sure what is going on.  We are hoping it is autoimmune and that it will go away on it’s own, but we are prepared if it happens to be something else.

Starting September we’ll be throwing parties as normal.  We don’t really make anything from the parties, we break even, but the spin offs from people seeing the space and later wanting to rent the space for private use is a real benefit to us.  It will be awesome to have people here and using the space again.

A major development for me – I am now a reviewer at Janes Guide!   I’ve been friendly with the folks over at Janes Guide since I first entered the adult internet business in 2000 and am really stoked to be a part of such a well respected site and working with people I have a lot of respect for.  *does a happy dance*

We had planned on breeding Luna, our newest female pug, but we decided not to in the end.  The risk of complications with squishy faces dogs giving birth is quite high, and we didn’t want to risk anything bad happening to Luna;  we love her too much!  So as soon as she finished her heat we’re going to have her spayed.

The shop roof doesn’t leak.  We had 3 days of rain this week and the roof was water tight.  It’s gratifying to know that I did a good job on it.  If we stay here more than another few years I will have to re roof the house.  In the meantime I am going to put moss killer on the roof and take the moss off once it dies.  That should extend the life of the roof.

We have been throwing ideas around as to what we plan on doing for the next 2 years and 2 months.  The original plan was to live in this house until Oct 2009 and decide whether we’d stay here or sell and move somewhere else.  Depending on what happens with Katt’s health and our finances we have though of potentially moving earlier.   We’ll stay here as long as we can afford to financially, emotionally, and health wise.  Hopefully for at least another 2 years and 2 months!  I like living in Chilliwack.  Our neighbors are great, we’re close to our friends and family, and we’re so close to nature.  I also really love our leisure centre.  It is the best one I’ve been to in any city across the country.

I’d better be off to bed.  Need my gnarly sleep and all.

I finished painting inside of the cupboards in the basement tonight.  I did a first coat of floor paint on the stairs to the basement too.  I also went to the GYM *gasp* today.

I’ve been feeling really down.  It’s been a struggle to get out of bed every morning and to get motivated to do anything.  There’s nothing wrong in my life at all;  I’ve got a home, a bed, food, a lovely partner, two pugs, and a lot of books around.  I just feel crappy.  Bed time has been my favorite part of the day.

I’m hoping that getting back to the gym will help.  If it gets much worse I’ll look into medication.

My to do list is still fairly big.

Left to do in first room:

• Paint inside of cabinets.
• Faux the concrete walls
• arrange furniture
• hang dart board

Left to do in second room:

• Paint dividing wall red
• Faux the concrete walls
• Finish painting door

Left do do in entry room/laundry room/stairwell

• Second coat of floor paint in laundry room
• Paint stairs & walls in stair well
• Hang curtain to partition/hide laundry room

It will probably be March 1 before we’re finished both rooms.  I think we can get the first room finished in a week or two if we do a bit every day.  We’d be down in the first room Faux’ing the wall tonight, but the paint is still wet on the steps.

The rest of the week is quite busy.  We have to go into Vancouver tomorrow so Leila can get an adjustment on her lap band, and we’re going to go to Ikea on the way home.  Thursday we have guests.  Friday we have an appointment, and Saturday we get to go to a kinky party.

We had a few threatening e-mails recently demanding we take a few of our sites down or ‘you will be exposed across the internet”..  Uhhh…  Everyone knows who we are anyways, so who cares?  Certainly not me.  In fact, it could be good for business.  The server is secure, the registrar is locked and has been warned about possible attempts to hijack the domain.  Mt reputation certainly won’t be harmed, since everyone I know, including my family, knows what I do for a living.  There are benefits to being completely out; nobody can blackmail you.

Bed time.

I also finished painting the dark brown trim in the hallway. All that’s left of that is to paint the bathroom door and trim. That is my task for tomorrow.

Business is really slow right now. I wonder if it’s something many other sites are dealing with. Our traffic is still good, but not many are buying right now. We have to get some bald models soon. That will certainly help.

We got our first nursery booking, which is awesome. We’ve working hard setting up the nursery, so it’ll be really kick ass. Hopefully we’ll be able to start working on the dungeon soon. As with anything, it depends on having money, which we don’t, so it may be a while. The thing I can do cheaply is sand down the walls and get them ready for painting.

I’ve been looking for a part time job. There is a distinct lack of any job that pays over $9/hr. That’s much lower than I am willing to go. I’ve been looking into more self employment options as well. Aside from wanting to earn some money, I also want to get out of the house and interact with people. I just don’t want to do it for a crap wage. It’s actually been quite a challenge to think of things I’d like to do that I qualify for that pay reasonably well. I am reasonably confident I’ll find something to occupy my time… eventually!

We’ve got the RV for sale as well. We’ve had a few folks look at it, but no offers yet. Winter isn’t the best time to sell an RV though, either. RV’ing is very seasonal, and sales don’t usually start to take off until March. Given that, we’re lowering our price in hopes that we’ll generate more interest. It’s a nice RV, but we need something a wee bit smaller that gets better gas mileage. It comes out again in the regional buy and sell today, so hopefully we’ll get more calls and a buyer.

Hopefully we’ll be ready for a housewarming party soon. Once we get the last bit of painting done and the art hung, we should probably be able to set a date. The challenge will be to get our friends, all of which live in or near Vancouver, our here to the burbs. 90 minutes isn’t so far though, so maybe we’ll have a big old partay! We shall see!

Katt is continuing to recover from her hysterectomy. She hasn’t gotten hysterical once since her surgery date. We went out for coffee with some local kinky folks we just met, and Katt dolled herself up. Man that girl is hot. She’s lost over 70lbs and she’s looking mighty fine. We were walking and she got a compliment from a passing lady pedestrian. I think that made her night. She’s pretty fatigued, emotionally and physically, from the surgery. A hysterectomy, even if you never wanted kids, is still a very emotional thing to have happened to you. Just the resources required from her body to repair the damaged tissue is astounding. I think she’s doing pretty well though. I pick up the slack where I can so she can rest and recover. I want her to stay healthy and not injure herself because she did too much.

I’m at 205lbs right now, down 25 lbs from where I was at last November. I’m also completely out of shape, where I was in awesome shape last November. It’s been one year since I exercised regularly. Not so good. Though, to be fair, I had ankle surgery in January and I was supposed to avoid impact exercise completely for 6 months.  The yard work and painting has been good for me though.

Surprisingly, I have been having a lot of pain in my surgically repaired ankle. I am a little concerned about that. Once we can afford a membership at the community centre, I’ll start going to the gym again and I’ll work on strengthening the joint and see if that helps.

This has been one of my mish mash entries. For someone who doesn’t have a lot going on, I have a lot going on.

I wrote some enquiry e-mails today about posting ads for head shaving models in local fetish newsletters. We really need to find models for Bald Beauties. We offer attractive compensation for head shave models so we’re hoping it draws some interest.

I really love our members area CMS. It simplifies site updates immensely. I’ve got 2 out of 14 sites added so far; I stopped after the first two while we were travelling and now I’m back in the groove again. I started working on the third site tonight and will try to finish it in the next few days and will move on to the next.

Jodie: We’re in Victoria now but I am booked up on a contract for the next few weeks, but I should have some free time at the end of the month.

Donna:  Bowen Island is nice, but not really in our price range.   We’re looking on Vancouver Island since there are more properties in our price range.  We can get more property (which meanswe can throw parties and bring friends over from the mainland) for a cheaper price.

Wherever we end up, we’ll be within 6 hours of Vancouver so we can go to parties and keep in touch with friends.   We also need to be close to town for business.

Speaking of business…  We’re desperate to find a lovely lady to shave her head on camera with us.  We pay!  Contact me if interested!

Back on the subject of home.  I am really looking forward to finding a place to live.  I am very ready to have a home base again.  We’ll spend the next few weeks on Vancouver Island visiting family and looking at places, then we’ll be coming back to the mainland to look as well.  It should be fun.

We went to Cabot Beach today and spent some time in the water with the dogs.  It is a gorgeous little red sand beach that has a full time lifeguard on duty, and a fabulous view.

In the evening we tend to watch a few shows on DVD and/or read before we go to sleep.  We’re almost done season 2 of Dead Like Me.  It was such an awesome show, it sucks majorly that they cancelled it.  Fuckers.  Ah well, I’ll enjoy watching the last 4 episodes.

It’s been a real mixed bag of weather on PEI.  We’ve had rain, sun, wind, and clouds, but the temperature has always been in the early-mid 20′s and it’s been VERY humid.  It feels more like 30 out there than 20 with the humidity.  I don’t do so well in humidity.  I tend to melt.  Well, sweat produsely, anyways.  it just looks like I am melting.  Thank goodness for the roof A/C in the van!

We’re having a Summer Sale on Bald Beauties from July 1 to July 4, 2006.  We’re offering 40% off monthly memberships for those 4 days.  Hopefully we’ll get a good response!  We like to offer specials from time to time to help make the site more accessible to lower income folks, and to encourage people to check out what we’ve got.  We rock, buy a membership!  Yeah!  We may do similar specials for the other sites, but we have nothing definitive planned yet.

Dinner time!

I see many families that come to RV parks to spend their vacation. Thats just so wierd to me to want to be crammed together with hundreds of other vehicles and tents in the middle of a freaking city for your only 2 weeks of vacation time. RV parks are a great place to park if you are travelling across the country, or need a place to stay while you’re exploring a city, but to park and not leave the site for a few weeks? How BORING.

Oh… Ultraviolet (the movie) sucked ass. It’s only redeeming quality was Milla (even though her acting sucked). MMMmmMMmmm… Milla. She’s way too freaking skinny, but her lips are gorgeous.

I finished adding Bald Beauties to the CMS software today and made the changes live. I’m really enjoying this CMS. It’s working out really well so far. Three days at a hotel with a superfast wifi connection gave me ample time to get everything working properly. I’ll start with another site this weekend if I feel up to it. I should spend some time advertising as well, and it’s probably a priority over adding another member area to the CMS.

We’re in Niagara Falls for the weekend, then we go back to the Toronto area for Katt’s first post surgical follow up. Her next appointment is 2 weeks after that, so we’re trying to decide what to do and where to go for the two weeks following. I need to get some things mailed to me, so we may stay put for a few days next week as well. We are going to play it by ear and see how well the girl feels and if she’s up to exploring or whether she needs to relax a bit more to recouperate.

She is doing very well.  She’s got the same issues that most folks who have the band have, but they seem to be very manageable for her.  The worst part for her, I’ve seen, is having to take her evening mediations crushed because they taste so bad.  She’ll have to take them crushed until she gets to the post surgical phase where solids are allowed to be ingensted.

So far so good!

It is a long and laborious process to go though all the galleries for a site and zip them up individually, upload them and reprocess them with the CMS. One of the more challenging issues is maintaining gallery order, so I go through the galleries and upload them based on the year the gallery was made. That’s as close as I’ll get to perfect order for the older material. Anything new will be fine, of course, and I’ll endeavor to make the order as close as possible for the older galleries.

One of the cool features of the CMS is that I can tell, to the number, how many galleries, photos, videos, and stories we have online.  No more bad Wolfe math!

We saw X-Men 3 yesterday too.  What a disappointment.   It doesn’t follow the cartoon series really -at all-, and the plot was so thin you could have poked a hole through it with a butter knife.  Nothing was really resolved, and major characters died for seemingly no reason.  It was NOT GOOD!

BOOO!  HISSSS! BOOOO!!!

THe only good part of the story was the very hot Phoenix and the even hotter Rogue.

BUT!  What is up to par is the Firefly DVD box set!  I’ve been watching 3-4 episodes a day over the last few days and it totally ROCKS!  I can’t wait to watch Serenity (for the third time) after I’ve finished the box set.

Oh!  We’re going to Cirque de Soleil tonight.  They have dancing horses.  In corsets.  It is very exciting.

I’m having problems with the test run of the CMS I am thinking of buying to manage the paysite.  THe WYSIWYG editor doesn’t work for some reason I still don’t quite understand.  The wysiwyg editor for wrdpress works fine, so it only make sense that it should also work for the paysite CMS.  I have asked my server techs to look into it for me.  It would be disappointing if it was not workable.

Some time next week we are going to see Niagara Falls.  That should be a lot of fun.

Oh, the bext thing thats happened in over a week…  There are barely any mosquitos where we are staying right now!  YAY!

Poor Bella though, she’s had a reaction to the mosquito bits she’s had and she;s got little bumps all over her belly, bum, and head.  She’s not itchy or otherwise ill, so I’m sure they’ll go away soon.

We have a member’s area CMS being installed tomorrow morning to try out to see how well it works for us.  If the tests go well, which I hope they do, we’ll buy the software and we’ll be in good shape to get the conversion from a manually run site to an automated site done.  That is very exciting to me!

Now, it’s off to pee, and await lovely e-mails.

Most likely she (he?) was a faker, someone who writes because they like to talk about their fetish and get off on that rather than actually wanting to follow through.  Many times they are men that pretend to be women, so they can get their fetish talk indulged.  Either way, it is vastly annoying.

Thankfully we have to be in the area for Katt’s lap band procedure anyways, so it’s not like we made the trip just for that one thing.  We did, however, arrive 10 days earlier than we needed to to accomondate the shoot.   We’re booked in the RV park until Thursday…  maybe we can get out and go travelling until the week before Katt’s procedure, and do our sight seeing in Toronto then.  -ponder-

We need bald models in a big way right now.  Any volunteers???

We haven’t decided where we’re going to go tomorrow.   We may end up in Golden, or we might just bite the bullet and head over the rockies.  We’re almost out of BC and we’re only on the second day of our trip!  We still have 4 more weeks before we need to be back east!

I’ve found a paysite CMS that we’ll be purchasing and using to manage our paysites.  The main feature we’re interested in is the automatic updates.  We would be able to schedule updates months and years in advance.  It would make it a lot easier for us while we’re travelling.  It will take quite a while to organize though once it is installed.  I’ll need to transfer all the existing content over to it first and then we can go live with it.  How quickly that happens depends on how often we have internet access and for how long at a sitting.

We are still looking for people to photograph while we are travelling.  We’ll be travelling east towards Golden, then into the rockies and up and then over into Edmonton over the next week.  Ping us if you might be interested!

I think I already mentioned that our place goes on the market on Monday and that I have to clean our place to a shiny shine over the weekend so it’s nice for people who are viewing the place next week.  Clean sells.

Katt got a call from her lap band surgeon’s office today.  She’s was asked to fill out a medical questionairre, choose the flavour of liquid food she wants, and send a deposit.  They only gave her a choice of chocolate and vanilla, neither of which she likes.  They’re also going to charge her for the meal replacements, so she wrote back and told them that she wanted to provide her own liquid meal replacement for before and after surgery.  That way she can buy something that has a taste.  The deposit itself is reasonable considering the cost for the entire surgery.  We’ll send all that info off to the clinic once we hear back about the meal replacements.

OH!!  I entered a 45 player sit and go poker tournament last night and got 3rd place.  I won $7.  I was in first place with three people left, then I went all in with three Queens, and I lost when the other person came up with a straight.  I had a few thousand chips left, and I mounted a valiant comeback, but I didn’t have the chips to fold any cards because the blinds would have knocked me out.  Still, I won 7 bucks on a $1 game!

We also met a curvy girl that came into town for business that Katt met through Livejournal.  We had dinner together and took some photos of her.  We had a great time.  She’s very vivacious and really fun to hang with.  We’re going to see her again on Thursday to take more photos and eat more tasty food!

I cleaned the condo a little tonight so the realtor doesn’t go all googly eyed when he comes over to get our place listed tomorrow.   I think we will do quite well on the sale, and if our taxes are less than expected due to the help of the new accountant we’ll have a little more room to play with!  Left over tax money could mean a new camera, new lighting equipment, or a newer camper van.

I keep having to remind myself to take it one step at a time.  There’s a progression of things that need to happen before I get too exited.

Unfortunately, I don’t know of any way to fix the vulnerabilities.  I’m running the latest scripts and they are supposed to be secure, so I decided the best thing to do was to remove them from the site completely.  I’m a little disappointed, but it really was quite a hassle to host them anyways.

I’ve deleted them entirely from my system.  I’ll switch to forwarding all the personals sites to alt.com or adultfriendfinder.com.  They’re two decent sites, and we make money when we refer people, so it works out for everyone.

Argh.

NNnnNNNnNnnnghh!

Ok, enough zombie noises.

I’ve been experiencing a lot of anxiety today. I usually have a low level of anxiety on a day to day basis, but it ramps up to unacceptable levels from time to time. Despite that I took Iggy and Bella to the beach for a romp. It took one false start, but we got there. Later in the afternoon Iggy and I went to the car wash and washed the car. Iggy was not impressed by the water spraying against the windows. He decided it would be better if I washed the car by myself next time.

I made Butter Chicken and rice for dinner. It was acceptable. It didn’t taste as good as the stuff I can get around the corner for the same price it costs me to make it. I will buy it from the restaurant next time.

Katt and I have remodeled Curvosity. We are just putting the final touches on it now and we’ll be uploading the changes later tonight. It has been really hard to get motivated to work lately. We need new content desperately but we haven’t been up to photo shoots. Our trip cross continent will hopefully help with that. I also need to set up some shoots before we go. I should contact our local model friends and see if we can arrange something.

I have been reading a book to a book and a half a day lately. I have zoomed through three Meredith Gentry books (Laurel K Hamilton) and three Anita Blake Novels since Saturday. The lack of physical activity for the last 3 months means I don’t have an outlet for my anxiety, so I read a lot more to compensate. I also eat a lot of junk food to compensate too. Without my primary method of stress relief (exercise), I switch to the secondary method (eating).

I’m a guy that NEEDS to exercise at least 3 times a week for a few hours each time. Starting tomorrow I’m allowed to do weights and the stationary bike. Of course the fun part is getting into the habit of going to the gym again. I shall do my best.

Anyhoo. I just finished uploading the new version of Curvosity. I hope it is successful.

In the meantime, the old script is up and running as usual.

There are lots of tips and tricks that you learn over the years from experience that are never talked about by successful webmasters on the ‘help boards’.  When people find what works, they don’t neccessarily want to share!

Of course, I’m not going to be giving away my secrets for free either.  But I will be giving them away, starting from the basics of choosing a domain name, which kind of site to start with, where to find affordable hosting, search engine optimization, traffic generation, and much more.

I’m so nice!

I like projects.  This one will be very much fun!